Sorry about the title, the length could not be avoided. I find myself having this conversation more than I expected. So I will put this question out there just to see what your reply would be.
Can you tell the difference from someone doing something to please you or do something because they enjoy doing it? Or do you believe that if they only enjoy it because you enjoy it?
I’m a firm believer that if you do something just because someone (your mate/spouse) likes it, it’s not enjoyable to them as much as it would be if you yourself enjoyed performing the act itself.
You enjoy getting oral. So your mate gives you oral.
Your mate/spouse enjoys giving oral, so they give you oral.
Can you tell the difference? Is there a noticeable difference?