Let’s define marriage before I event touch on how I feel about this subject.
1. (broadly) any of the diverse forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world to form a familial bond that is recognized legally, religiously, or socially, granting the participating partners mutual conjugal rights and responsibilities and including, for example, opposite-sex marriage, same-sex marriage, plural marriage, and arranged marriage:Anthropologists say that some type of marriage has been found in every known human society since ancient times.
2. The legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of two people to live as a married couple, including the accompanying social festivities: to officiate at a marriage.
Okay, now that we got that out the way… let me tell you what I think of all things marriage.
Who proposes? The guys.. I had this discussion with friends and I know many ladies that have proposed to their current mates. I would never do that, and I know they say, never say never but this time is a uber no for this woman. Nope, I’m not going to do it. Just like smoking, it’s not lady like.
Feeling pressed to get married. I don’t think anyone should be pressed to get married. If we love each other and we both want to get married. When he proposes doesn’t matter. I think that people or society puts too much on folks in stressing being married. I want to get married but I’m not going to pressure anyone into marrying me.
Reasons to get married. If it’s not love, or that fact that you can’t see your life without each other there is no reason to get married. I’m not marrying anyone for “the kids”, “it make sense”, “she wanted to get married” or “financial reasons”. Love should be the reason! Being unapologetically in love, head over heels in love and all that type of love.
Name Change I’m definitely taking my husband’s last name. If I wanna spend the rest of my life with you, why not change my last name?
Communication Always communicate, even when it hurts.
Once we are married, we stop trying. I think we should always work on keeping the romance in our marriage. Sex doesn’t stop. We should still be dating in our marriage.
These are just my thoughts on this subject. I would love to hear your thoughts on these points. Am I speaking from a naïve stand point? Am I being realistic? Do you feel how I feel about the things I have said?